Live life fully while you’re here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You’re going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don’t try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.
~TONY ROBBINS, author of Unlimited Power : The New Science Of Personal Achievement
What is your motive for action? What is it that drives you in your life today? Not 10 years ago. Are you running the same pattern? Because I believe that the invisible force of internal drive, activated, is the most important thing. I’m here because I believe emotion is the force of life.
We’ve got to remind ourselves that decision is the ultimate power. When you ask people, have you failed to achieve something significant in your life?
They are a claim to you missing resources, and they may be accurate. You may not have the money, or the Supreme Court, but that is not the defining factor.
The defining factor is never resources; it’s resourcefulness. And what I mean specifically, rather than just some phrase, is if you have emotion, human emotion, something that I experienced from you the day before yesterday at a level that is as profound as I’ve ever experienced and I believe with that emotion you would have beat his ass and won.
And if we get the right emotion, we can get ourselves to do anything. If you’re creative, playful, fun enough, can you get through to anybody, yes or no?
If you don’t have the money, but you’re creative and determined, you find the way. This is the ultimate resource.
What determines your resources?
We’ve said decisions shape destiny, which is my focus here. If decisions shape destiny, what determines it is three decisions. What will you focus on? You have to decide what you’re going to focus on. Consciously or unconsciously. the minute you decide to focus, you must give it a meaning, and that meaning produces emotion. Is this the end or the beginning? Is God punishing me or rewarding me, or is this the roll of the dice? An emotion creates what we’re going to do, or the action.
It wasn’t your ability; it was your state.
Your model of the world is what shapes you long term. Your model of the world is the filter. That’s what’s shaping us. It makes people make decisions. To influence somebody, we need to know what already influences them. It’s made up of three parts:
First, what’s your target? What are you after? It’s not your desires. It’s needs we have. I believe there are six human needs.
The needs of the personality:
First one: certainty. Second, we need variety. We need surprise.Third human need, critical: significance. We all need to feel important, special, unique. Fourth need, connection and love.
The needs of the spirit:
Number five, you must grow. The sixth need is to contribute beyond ourselves. The secret to living is giving.
Second, once you know what the target that’s driving you is and you uncover it for the truth — you don’t form it —then you find out what’s your map, what’s the belief systems that tell you how to get those needs.