The Untethered Soul offers simple yet profound answers to these questions.
Be willing to examine the process of resistance
In order to resist you first must decide that something is not the way you like it. Plenty of events make it right through you.
Why did you decide to resist this one?
Something inside of you must have a basis for deciding when to simply let things pass through and when to assert willpower to either push them away or cling to them. It’s clear that not all of us resist the same things or have the same issues. This is because we don’t all have the same preconceived notions of how things should be or how much they should matter to us.
If you want to understand stress, begin by realizing that you carry around with you your own set of preconceived notions of how things should be. It is based upon these notions that you assert your will to resist what has already happened.
Where did you get these preconceived notions? Why does it bother you?
The personal events that take place in our lives leave impressions on our minds and hearts
Those impressions become the basis for asserting our will to either resist or cling. It’s not deeper than that. The events may have happened in your childhood or at various points throughout your life. Regardless of when they happened, they left impressions inside of you.
Now, based on these past impressions, you are resisting the current events that are taking place. This creates inner tension, turmoil, struggle, and suffering.
Instead of seeing this and refusing to allow these past events to run your life, you buy into them. Believing they have real meaning, you put all your heart and soul into either resisting or clinging. But in truth, this entire process has no real meaning. It just destroys your life.
The alternative is to use life to let go of these impressions and the stress they create
In order to do this you have to become very conscious. You have to carefully watch the mental voice that tells you to resist something.
Why do you listen to it?
Let your spiritual path become the willingness to let whatever happens make it through you, rather than carrying it into the next moment. That doesn’t mean you don’t deal with what happens. You’re welcome to deal with it, but first let the energy make it through you. If you don’t, you will not actually be dealing with the current event, you will be dealing with your own blocked energies from the past. You will not be coming from a place of clarity, but from a place of inner resistance and tension.
Begin dealing with each situation with acceptance
Acceptance means that events can make it through you without resistance. If an event takes place and is able to make it through your psyche, you will be left face-to-face with the actual situation as it truly exists. You will find that you are able to deal with daily situations much better.
You will be surprised to find that in most situations there’s nothing to deal with except for your own fears and desires. Fear and desire make everything seem so complicated. If you don’t have fear or desire about an event, there’s nothing to deal with. When the next thing happens, you’re fully present in that moment and simply enjoying the experience of life.
Deep inner release is a spiritual path in and of itself. It is the path of nonresistance, the path of acceptance, the path of surrender. It’s about not resisting energies as they pass through you. If you have difficulty doing this, don’t get down on yourself. Just keep working with it. It’s the work of a lifetime to become that open, that complete, and that whole.