Do you want psychologically proven ways to attract the opposite sex, flirt better, and create chemistry? Or to take advantage of how we’re biologically wired to engineer love? How can you use The Science of Attraction to cut through the games to date and love better?
The Science of Attraction
The way men and women attract each other is not a product of random chance. Just about every aspect has an evolutionary and subsequent scientific basis to it. They explain why you tend to get attracted to certain types of people, and even why certain types might repulse you.
Even the way that you talk to the opposite sex and attempt to flirt has roots in what science has discovered drives attraction and mating.
As it turns out, there are four fundamental types of attraction that determine how attracted you are to others (Eric Waisman, Jaunty).
These attractions are the four essential components that someone looks for in the opposite sex. They are not hard rules, but rather guidelines of what people biologically and psychologically look for in a mate.
The Four Attractions
Most interestingly, they follow a sequence that has been honed through millennia of practice and survival. The four attractions are health, status, emotion, and logic, and that is the order that they must flow through.
Each step is a prerequisite for the next level of attraction and will lead you to the next level of a potential relationship.
Briefly: to be attractive, you must be healthy and physically attractive; then you must be able to provide what is biologically expected of your gender; then you must be emotionally attracted to them and bonded; finally, you must logically be attracted to them with similar values and morals.
This closely mirrors the dating process.
When you first meet someone, first thing you notice is if you’d like to have sex with them. If you can’t see them in that light, there won’t be any attraction, and you don’t even consider the next levels.
If you’d like to have sex with them, you’ve passed the first level of attraction. Next, do you think they will be worth your time? Would it be anything more than a lusty fling, or is there enough substance and value in the other person to truly be attracted?
Oh, they’re on track to make partner at their company? Not bad. They’ve passed your superficial filters! If you actually like them, you can be sure they would be a good partner.
But do you actually like them? You must have that personal chemistry with them–the emotional attraction and feeling of simply being drawn to them. You guys share the same sense of humor and love nesting in your studio apartment? Wonderful! You’ve reached the bare minimum for most relationships!
But can this relationship go the distance? That’s where logic attraction comes in–do you have the same life goals, dealbreakers, and values?
Complement The Science of Attraction with The Fear of Intimacy.