You are surrounded by toxic people who drags you down. You are doing things you don’t want to do but you feel you should do in order to please others. You don’t do things because you worry what other people will think.
Sounds familiar?
We’ve all been there. Till that magic day when you start not giving a f*ck. In The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, Marie Kondo says, “Life truly begins after you have put your house in order.”
Now it’s that moment. And your house is you.
BUT WHAT DOES “NOT GIVING A F*CK” MEAN?
In The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving A F*ck, Sarah Knight defines Not Giving a F*ck as “not spending time, energy, and/or money on things that neither make you happy nor improve your life (annoy), so that you have more time, energy, and/or money to devote to the things that do (bring joy).”
1. Not giving a f*ck means taking care of yourself first.
There’s this misconception that if you think of yourself first, you are an egoistic person.
Let me tell you. That’s not true.
How can you share joy with others if you are stressed out or annoyed or unhappy? Nobody can’t give what they don’t have.
Be loyal to your journey. Care of yourself first.
2. Not giving a f*ck means allowing yourself to say no.
How many times did you say “Yes” when you really wanted to say “No”?
Most likely a bunch of them.
No is an instrument of integrity. It’s hard to receive it. You need courage to say it. But in any way, No sets us free.
You should start using it more often because as James Altucher stated in his bestselling book The Power of No:
*You have the right to defend your life.
*You have the right to healthy relationships and real love.
*You have the right to use your talents and allow abundance into your life.
*You have the right to assert what you want.
*You have the right to choose what stories you believe in.
*You have the right to take your time.
*You have the right to be honest, above all, with yourself.
*You have the right to an abundant and fulfilled life.
*You have the right to be here now.
*You have the right to silence.
*You have the right to surrender.
You have the right to say NO.
3. Not giving a f*ck–crucially—means releasing yourself from the worry, anxiety, fear and guilt associated with saying no.
Emotions caused by worry, anxiety, fear and guilt can turn your life upside down. Not giving a f*ck means that you can say no without any remorse. Without fear. Without worries.
You feel free to say No.
4. Not giving a f*ck means reducing mental clutter.
Instead of giving a f*ck about annoying, toxic people and things you don’t care about, you can wisely spend your time, energy and/or money on people you love and things that are important to you.
Here is a list of healthy emotions we can plant every day, listed by Anthon
*Love and warmth
*Appreciation and gratitude
*Curiosity
*Excitement and passion
*Determination
*Flexibility
*Confidence
*Cheerfulness
*Vitality
*Contribution
DECIDING NOT TO GIVE A F*CK
So you want to live your best life, right?
Then, sort your fucks into categories [Things | Work | Friends-Acquaintances-Strangers | Family] and for any item of the list, ask yourself:
- Do I give a fuck (care) about this?
- Does this deserve a fuck (time | energy | money)?
Yes or No?
The answer should be simple. No sorries.
Sarah Knight shares a flowchart that can help you to make decisions on whether you give or not a f*ck.
