In Intimacy: Trusting Oneself and the Other
, this gentle and compassionate g
uide, Osho takes his readers step-by-step through what makes people afraid of intimacy, how to encounter those fears and go beyond them, and what they can do to nourish themselves and their relationships to support more openness and trust.
Have you ever made it a point of deep meditation to know what you are searching for?
Life is a search–a constant search, a desperate search, a search for something one knows not what. There is a deep urge to seek, but one knows not what one is seeking. And there is a certain state of mind in which whatsoever you is not going to give you any satisfaction.
The search continues whether you get anything or not. The poor are searching, the rich are searching, the ill are searching, the well are searching, the powerful are searching, the powerless are searching, the stupid are searching, the wise are searching–and nobody knows exactly what for.
The more it becomes defined, the more you will feel that there is no need to search for it
The search can continue only in a state of vagueness, in a state of dreaming; when things are not clear, you simply go on searching, pulled by some inner urge, pushed by some inner urgency. One thing you do know: You need to search.
This is an inner need. But you don’t know what you’re seeking. And unless you know what you are seeking, how can you find it?
It is vague–you think the key is money, power, prestige, respectability. But then you see people who are respectable, people who are powerful, and they are also seeking. Then you see people who are tremendously rich, and they are also seeking; to the very end of their lives they are seeking.
The search must be for something else.
[bluebox]The first thing for the real seeker–for the seeker who has become a little alert, aware, is to define the search, to formulate a clear-cut concept of what it is, to bring it out of the dreaming consciousness, to encounter it in deep alertness, to look into it directly; to face it. Immediately a transformation starts happening: the more defined it becomes, the less it is there.[/bluebox]
Be authentic
Truthfulness means authenticity–to be true, not to be false, not to use masks. Whatsoever is your real face, show it at whatever the cost.
Remember, that doesn’t mean that you have to unmask others; if they are happy with their lies, it is for them to decide. Don’t be a reformer, and don’t try to teach others, and don’t try to change others. If you change, that’s enough of a message.
To be authentic means to remain true to your own being. How to remain true?
- Never listen to anybody, what they tell you to be; otherwise you whole life will be wasted. Everybody is a salesman. If you listen to too many salesmen you will become mad. Don’t listen to anybody; just close your eyes and listen to the inner voice.
- If you have done the first thing only then does the second become possible: never wear a mask. When you want to be angry, be angry. Nothing is wrong in being angry. If you want to laugh, laugh. Nothing’s wrong in laughing loudly.
- Always remain in the present – because all falseness enters either from the past or from the future. To be here-now is to be authentic. No past, no future: this moment all, this moment the whole eternity.
Complement Intimacy: Trusting Oneself and the Other with Stay loyal to your journey. You are unique in all the world. Your journey is to know yourself.