Key step in developing that is trying to distinguish between money troubles and money worries:
Money troubles can only be solved by more money: The bills are coming in, the income is too small, somehow we’ve got to find more money to meet expenses.
Money worries have a different character: what’s going on in all minds, in our souls, not just what’s going on in our bank accounts.
Envy is a painful experience: the desire that makes us feel humiliated
It’s not surprising that envy has been regarded as something we should just get rid of.
The message here is stop envy, cut it out, but it’s a bit more interesting than that and that we shouldn’t just be trying to eliminate envy but we should be trying to get to understand it, get to know it, and see what good things might be hitting within envy.
Envy isn’t just around the money, it’s something else: to be like someone else
The underlying secret fire of the envy is really a kind of beginner’s guide to how can I kept to be like a bit more like these people, and the beginner’s guide says stay in the same hotel.
So by investigating, we discovered something more interesting which is that need to try to cultivate some of the qualities that these people had, some of it boldness spirit, some determination to persist in the face of opposition, some of their inventiveness.
Rivalry: how much money do I need in order to have an OK life
We actually just move to thank quick solution was to say: I just need more money than that guy, because in our heads the real task of money is to feel a bit better than this crucial rival in our lives.
[bluebox]So the solution is not really a money trouble, the solution isn’t get more money but get more mature, get more psychological free, get more independent. [/bluebox]
Techniques we can use to address this
What words and phrases do you associate with money?
What do these words mean to you and what do they reveal about your attitude to money?
We have to see money for what it is by stripping away psychological additions, connections we make
What are our real needs?
When we have money worries, money is sitting inside a psychological concern and confusing it. The path to having a better relationship with money is the separation of what it’s just about money from things which get entangled with it.